It’s time to socialise without social media

Sakal Times
Monday, 8 January 2018

Today, we see everyone busy on the phone. This affects the way they perceive reality. We understand a situation by sensing the person we are interacting with. By understanding his body language, eye moment, voice tone and other physical aspects. However, in a virtual interaction, it is just a text and a set of smilies. Hence, when a group of friends come together or a family is actually spending time together, after a while, they all go back to their phones

Pune: It is common to see a group of friends or family members, all busy on their phones socialising in the virtual world even while in company of others. Psychologists from the city note that one of the worst impacts of addiction to social media websites like Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Whatsapp is that social skills of a person get reduced.

Speaking to Sakal Times, Dr Chaula Patel, a psychologist from the city, said that youngsters and young adults have reduced social skills as they are less exposed to a real scenario.

“Today, we see everyone busy on the phone. This affects the way they perceive reality. We understand a situation by sensing the person we are interacting with. By understanding his body language, eye moment, voice tone and other physical aspects. However, in a virtual interaction, it is just a text and a set of smilies. Hence, when a group of friends come together or a family is actually spending time together, after a while, they all go back to their phones,” said Patel.Self-Comparison

A friend goes abroad and posts photos online. Another meets a celebrity on regular basis with images to show for it. A particular group goes out partying frequently, posting status messages and photos of a gala time.  

More often than not, this triggers in others a feeling of comparing their lives with the images they are seeing.

The reason why people feel unhappy on social media is the constant self-comparison they get into. A study published in the Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology stated that people feel depressed after spending a great deal of time on Facebook because they feel bad when comparing themselves to others.

Speaking to Sakal Times, Dr Shirisha Sathe, a psychologist working with ILS Law College, said the depression and low self-esteem comes from the set stereotype.

“Social media sets up a stereotype and everyone wants to follow it. We want to run behind perfection. However, we forget that life is imperfect. Social media not only forces us to get into the same race of perfection but also makes us feel unhappy when we are not able to get enough attention there, that is, in terms of likes and other measuring parameters,” said Sathe.

 

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