Say ‘millennials’ and the older generation thinks them to be lazy, self-centred and frivolous. They waste their time and have little respect for elders. They are immersed in the digital world. But this is bound to happen for a generation which is being shaped by technology. It’s not that they don’t understand anything about relationships or careers. It’s just that they think and communicate differently. They too follow their dreams.
We catch up with a few millennials to know how they are creating their own identity and keeping in sync with the changing times.
Today, a video blogger, a YouTuber, a social media consultant or a political campaigner is as much proud of his profession as an engineer, doctor or teacher. And why not? These new careers are helping millennials earn a good remuneration, giving them wide exposure and even turning them into small or big celebs.
Millennial Yash Gade may be a business graduate but he did manage to convince his parents that designing was close to his heart and did not give up on his passion. “The previous generations, as I know, have always preferred engineering, medicine and law as career choices. Any other job would not even have been considered a profession,” he says.
Like most parents, Gade’s parents too wanted him to pursue a business degree because they wanted him to join the family business. Since his parents were persistent about it right from the start he got a business degree, but his true calling was designing. “Convincing parents is difficult but not impossible,” he says and the good part is that his parents were very supportive of his decision and let him follow a different career path.
He believes that with the world making fast progress and lots of new career choices opening up the older generation does realise that youngsters needn’t pursue conventional jobs.
“When it comes to careers there is ample choice for us now,” says Gade, mentioning that he is all set to take up product designing along with handling the family business. He says that the millennial generation more or less has the freedom to choose their own future.
Millennial couples text their partner on the way to school/ work/ college, FaceTime during leisure hours and virtually snuggle before saying good night to each other. Tweeting, texting and adding friends on Facebook has in fact brought people closer, and has given multiple choices when it comes to relationships/ partners.
Radhika Parashar, a journalist, says, “For us millennials, relationships have been ever evolving since we belong to a digitally connected dating pool.” She believes that with the dawn of social media digital relationships have been on the rise, where we fall in and out of love and share all our memorable moments online, which may not go well with the older generation.
“Social media has definitely got us closer even if it is just digitally,” she says, which is the need of the hour in a fast-paced world. “But I do believe that digital relationships work because we live in a digital age,” she says, mentioning that her long-distance relationship is working out well. “The older generation calls us impatient but we need to keep pace with the fast changing world,” says Parashar adding that this generation is aware of the demands and workings of a relationship, just that the medium of relationship is different.
Living in the same city as your parents, you are expected to not live independently. ‘Why do you need to move out?’, ‘How will you manage?’, ‘What will happen when you are sick?’, are the barrage of questions you might have to face from your parents. But millennials do believe in enjoying their independence and exploring life. The initial struggles may be hard, but they are okay with tackling and overcoming the challenges.
Being the only child, Shruti Bali, HR executive, has always been close to her parents which she believes could possibly be a reason why they are protective about her. To taste what it is like to be independent she wanted to move out to live with her friends despite living in the same city as her parents.
“Sometimes you just need the space to understand yourself better,” she says.
Moving out did not really change the relationship between her and her parents. They spoke daily over the phone and were well connected by social media. “They were there when I needed them,” she says mentioning that she called her parents often.
“Never did I think I could pull off living alone, but I did and it helped me realise and introspect a lot not only about my own life but also how my parents have taken care of me,” she says.
Bali believes that distance does not always break or sour a relationship especially when it comes to parents. “Even though millennials are tagged as a generation that lives only for themselves, it is not true,” says she adding that her parents finally had some peace when she moved out.