Old at heart

Anjali Jhangiani
Sunday, 2 September 2018

If your favourite plans are the cancelled ones, and you just loathe the idea of ‘going out’, your inner child has probably grown too old too fast

There are two types of adults below the age of 35 — those who believe in keeping their inner child alive, and those who are pampering their inner old lady/man. How to find out which side you belong to? Think about how you spend the weekend — if you’re excited about meeting people, going out and having a ball, you belong to the prior category, and if all you want to do is curl up on your bed, get some much-deserved rest as you Netflix and chill, preferably with the minimum company, say hello to your inner grandma (or grandpa). 

“I went to Imagica, a theme park in Khopoli a few years ago, and ever since then, we’ve been making plans to visit it again. It was so much fun. But you know how it is with plans that involve coordinating with other people to fix a date — the plan has been cancelled so many times and I’ve been the first to voice my disappointment to my friends. But honestly, I was glad it didn’t work out,” says 28 year-old event manager Anam Mukhtar, adding, “My work week is so hectic that by the end of it, I just want to do nothing. I don’t want to go and further exhaust myself at an amusement park. Standing in line for an hour to get into a ride that lasts a few seconds is not how I want to pamper my inner child. In fact, I don’t think I have an inner child, I have an inner grandma who wants to yell at the kids who aren’t behaving properly and harassing their parents there.”

In a world where everyone’s seeking peace, these young-oldies are looking for some quietude. “I shifted to Pune from Vizag after graduating from college five years ago. I remember when I was in college, I used to think how cool it will be when I start working and earning my own money and spending it on whatever I want to — clubbing, drinking, shopping, which I did for a while. Now I’m stuck in the grind — but that’s what I just tell people. I actually enjoy just being lazy at home in my pyjamas. I remember how my parents would want me to stay home and I would always want to be out. Now they laugh at me when I tell them I’m home. When my friends want to party, I have them over too, but clubs and the ear-drum blasting music there is not my scene anymore,” says 26 year-old BPO employee Rahul Dossa. 

Now this behaviour might be mistaken for a form of depression, fatigue or another medical condition. But they claim it’s not. In fact, it’s quite the contrary. “I’ve become more cautious about what I eat, how much rest my body gets, and how my mind needs to be calm now. For example, I’ve given up wearing high heels because I feel that it’s just not worth the pain that I will have to deal with after looking tall for the evening. I love fashion, but I just don’t feel that I have to indulge in a trend that makes me uncomfortable, even if it makes me look smokin’ hot,”?says Priyanka Sinha, 30-year-old banker. 

Too much too soon

The generation before the millennials, the baby boomers who were born between ’40s and ’60s or the Gen X who were born in the following two decades, witnessed a whole lot of technological advancements throughout their youth. But the way the world has changed since the invention of the computer, and more importantly the internet, has been rapid, and millennials are scrambling to keep up. 

The simple act of listening to music, for previous generations changed from using a vinyl records to the cassette, but for millennials it evolved from using the cassette to the CD and then to portable MP3 players and pen drives, SD cards, and now they stream it on apps on their smartphones. Even regular things like the notion of using Google Maps to find the fastest route to every address, or even paying for stuff with digital wallets were things that this generation quickly adapted to. Advancement in technology is a welcome change for this generation that grew up watching members of The Jetsons family driving flying space cars, but there’s no denying that too much has happened too fast. And it just may be the experience of having lived through such rapid evolution that makes some ‘feel old’.

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