My best friend does not like my girlfriend. She is always passing mean comments and taunting my girlfriend, who is harmless but I know she feels bad about it. My girlfriend and I have been avoiding my best friend for a while now. All of us have been friends since childhood and I don’t know how to restore the friendship between all of us.
Oh Rahul! Can’t you see how you’re stuck between Tina and Anjali? Only in your story, your best friend isn’t going to leave you to figure out what the ‘kuch kuch hota hai, tum nahi samjhoge’ riddle is and go in for a tedious and unnecessary makeover, just to show up in an all-new avatar after 10-odd years and sweep you off your feet. Instead she’s going to bite your girlfriend’s head off because she is a modern woman willing to fight for what she wants.
Now the solution to this whole situation lies with you — I’d ask you to first find out whether your ‘best friend’ is in love with you, but I don’t think you can manage it or you would have known this already. So just talk to her. And I don’t mean text or video call, you must have this conversation in person and make her feel secure enough that you aren’t going to abandon her just because there’s someone else you have to give your time and attention to. Tell her how you feel, how much you need her in your life, and how getting into relationships (with other people if not with each other) is inevitable for both of you.
Both of you need to understand that things are going to change between you two when you get involved with other people. It’s a bitter pill to swallow, but a necessary one nonetheless. You also need to talk to your girlfriend about how important your best friend is to you, explain your friendship to her. Once you’ve figured things out with her, all three of you should meet up and do a fun activity together to build team spirit. And always remember Rahul, pyaar dosti hai.
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